For newlyweds
Questions to ask on your honeymoon.
The wedding is behind you, the inbox can wait, and you're somewhere neither of you has to be anything but married. It's a rare stretch of time to talk about the life you're starting. These are the questions couples bring to that moment in Sojourn - one over a long dinner, one on a slow morning.
The life you're starting
Big-picture questions - good for a long walk.
- 1What does a good ordinary Tuesday look like five years from now?
- 2Where do you want to have lived, at least once?
- 3What kind of work do you want to be doing — and what kind do you want to be done with?
- 4How do you want money to feel in our life?
What you're building
Answer separately first, then compare.
- 5What character do you want our ordinary week to have?
- 6What do you want us to be known for, between us?
- 7What do you want us to protect from the world?
The two of you
- 8When do you feel most loved by me?
- 9What is one thing you wish we did more of?
- 10What do you want to be true of us in ten years?
Free printable
Take all 25 questions with you.
A printable PDF to fold into your bag and open somewhere new. Written by a licensed marriage and family therapist.
How to use them
- One question a night is plenty. A honeymoon isn't a workshop.
- The person asking listens; the person answering takes as long as they need. No rebuttals, no fixing.
- Answer your own question too. It's a conversation, not an interview.
- On the last night, try a letter each: begin with something you didn't know about them before the trip, and read them aloud once.
Questions people ask
What should couples talk about on their honeymoon?
The honeymoon is a good time for the big, hopeful conversations: what you want your ordinary days to feel like, where you want to live, how you want money to feel, and what you want to protect as a couple. Keep it light - one question at a time, somewhere relaxed.
Isn't it too serious for a honeymoon?
Not if you keep it small. These are curious questions, not problems to solve. Most couples find one good conversation over dinner is the part of the trip they remember.
Is this premarital counseling or therapy?
No. These are reflection questions for a trip. Sojourn is a guided reflection companion, not therapy. If you're struggling, a licensed professional can help.
These questions come from Sojourn, a guided journey for before you go, while you're there and after you're home - for couples and solo travelers. It's a reflection companion, not therapy.